一、犹豫不决  indecision

 

 

让孩子学音乐，学一门乐器，这是让孩子的未来得到提升。有些人总是犹犹豫豫，真不知道是怎么想的，又不是要命。

Let the child learn music or learn a musical instrument, this is a way to let the child's future to get a promotion. Some people are always hesitating, really do not know what to do, it will do harm to your child's future.

 

刚开始学琴的时候，意志就不坚定的，担心这、担心那的，基本上学不长久，也没有作用，不如刚开始就别让孩子学。

If from the begining of learning the piano, the will is not firm and worry about everything, then it will not last long, and there is no role.

 

 

二、拖延症  procrastination

 

无论做什么，总有拖延的习惯，上课喜欢拖延，回课喜欢拖延，就连续费都喜欢拖延。如果家长有拖延的习惯，孩子基本上也有，这方面家长要引起重视，帮助孩子克服“拖延症”。

No matter what you do, you always have the habit of procrastinating. Such like to procrastinate in class, and when I return to class. If the parents have the habit of procrastination, the children basically have it too. Parents should pay attention to this aspect and help the children to overcome the "procrastination".

 

很多时候，拖延就是逃避问题和懒惰。愈加懒惰，愈加消极，会掉入懊悔过去和幻想未来的陷阱中。总是把困难放大，望而却步，抱着能拖一天是一天的心态，找各种借口逃避。

Most of the time, procrastination is just avoiding problems and laziness. Being lazy and negative, you fall into the trap of regretting the past and daydreaming about the future. Always magnify the difficulties, flinch, or holding a belief that you can drag a day , finding various excuses to escape.

 

 

三、3分钟热度  3-minute heat

 

不用说，大多数的孩子学琴失败的原因就在这里，刚开始觉得新鲜，一节课还没有上完，就没兴趣了，这种人，做什么事情都成不了。

Needless to say, this is the reason why most children fail to learn the piano. They feel fresh at the beginning and lose interest before a class is finished. This kind of people can do nothing.

 

3分钟热度的人，从来都不曾体验到，坚持做好一件事成功后带来的喜悦，因为坚持的过程总是枯燥又充满挫折的，而人的天性又是好逸恶劳。学琴，就像坐过山车一样，有高有低，在枯燥的时候，一定要坚持。

The person of 3 minutes heat, never experienced that insist to do a thing can bring joy after success, because the processis always dry and be full of frustration, and the person's nature is fond of ease and assiduity. Learning the piano is like riding a roller coaster. There are highs and lows.

 

四、自我设限  self-handicapping

 

想学琴，但还没学呢，就先想到了困难。“我担心没时间练琴啊”、“我乐感不是很好，能学吗”、“我家离琴行太远了啊”。各种原因。他们都还没开始学呢？就先否定，所以说，所有的平庸与低成就都是自我设限的结果。

Before learn the piano, the first thought is about the difficulties. "I'm afraid I don't have time to practice", or "I don't have a good sense of music, can I learn it?", or"my home is too far away from the piano shop". Various reasons. They haven't even started yet. So all mediocrity and low achievement is the result of self-limitation.

 

这种心理暗示可以帮你阻挡任务失败带来的挫败感，暂时维护你的自我价值感，但是，却剥夺了你“往上再走一步”的成功机会。

This kind of psychological suggestion can help you block the frustration caused by the failure of the task and maintain your sense of self-worth temporarily, but it deprives you of the chance of success "one more step up".

 

五、总找借口  Always look for excuses 

 

从来不在自己身上找原因，总是喜欢找借口的人，肯定学不好琴。长时间不进步，他不明白，这是自己不练琴的缘故。每星期上完课之后，回家到，从来不碰琴，琴盖子上面都积满了厚厚的灰尘。都这样了，你还怪老师没教好。天，就是巴赫穿越过来教你也不行啊。

Never find the reason in their own, always like to make excuses, and people like this certainly cannot learn the piano well. For a long time he did not improve. He did not understand. Every week after class, he would go home and never touch the piano. The piano was covered with thick dust. All this, you also blame the teacher that they did not teach good. God, even Bach can't help you.

 

所以，学琴一定要“一日三省吾身”：我今天练琴了吗？我今天练了多少时间？我今天有没有认真练？

So, when learn the piano you must "Reflect on youself three times a day " : Did I practice today? How much time did I practice today? Did I practice hard today?

 

 

 

六、胆子小  Get no courage

 

人之所以痛苦，在于太过于在乎别人的看法。回课情况不好，老师都没怎么批评，就很自卑，不敢学下去了，想打退堂鼓；父母一抱怨，说花了钱，琴没有学好，进步不大，内心又开始忧愁了，不想学了。

People are suffering because they care too much about what others think.  The teacher did not criticize, he will be very self-abased, do not dare to learn and want to give up; When his parents complained that he had not learned well and made little progress after spending money, they began to worry again and did not want to learn.

 

其实就是心智弱小，不愿意面对挫折感。这种孩子要多鼓励，多引导。

In fact, children whose mind is weak, unwilling to face frustration needs much encourage and guide.

 

七、不买琴  Don't but a piano

 

不管你在哪里买琴，绝对不强求你在琴行或者培训机构买，你就自己到外面去买吧，免得多心。

No matter where you buy your instrument, you should never be forced to buy it in a piano company or training institution. You should go out to buy it yourself, so as not to be oversensitive.

 

但我要说的是，你学琴不买琴，肯定学不长久。首先是自己练琴不方便；其次是说明你对音乐、对这门乐器还不够热爱；最后说明你还没有完全下决心，进退维谷，给自己留条后路，这是绝对学不好的。项羽在巨鹿之战时，如果不是破釜沉舟，断绝后路，能取得胜利吗？士兵不是抱着必胜的决心，能以一当十，取得以少胜多的成功吗？

But what I'm saying is, if you don't buy the instrument, you won't be able to learn it for long. First of all, it is not convenient to practice the piano by yourself. The second is that you don't have enough love for music and the instrument. At last, it shows that you haven't made up your mind completely. Xiang yu in the battle of the giant deer, if not burn one's bridges and cut off the back, can he win? Isn't it true that soldiers, determined to win, can achieve more success with fewer victories than with fewer?