Scott的故事告诉我们,“成就感”对孩子练琴非常重要

2019-05-07 10:08

 

Scott的故事
Scott的故事告诉我们,“成就感”对孩子练琴非常重要
Scott和不少5岁左右的同龄孩子一样,也被妈妈送去学弹钢琴。开始的两年,每次到了练习弹琴的时间,Scott总是要妈妈督促,才不太情愿地坐到琴边。两年后的一天,当地社区计划举办一次大型的联欢晚会。在妈妈和钢琴老师的极力推荐下,Scott被邀请在晚会上演奏一首曲目。
 
Scott, like many other 5-year-olds kid, his mother sent him to learn to play the piano. In the first two years, when it was time to practice, Scott always needed his mother to urge him to sit by the piano. One day two years later, the local community planned a big party. Encouraged by his mother and his piano teacher, Scott was invited to play a piece at the party.
 
当晚,7岁的Scott为大家献上一曲“月亮河”(MoonRiver),虽然还弹得不够流畅,但同样赢得了台下热烈的掌声,也赢得了妈妈的亲吻。不仅如此,晚会结束后,还有许多的小男孩、小女孩围过来,要求和他一起照相。Scott似乎感受到了从未有过的明星礼遇。在回家的路上,Scott就迫不及待地问妈妈:“下次的晚会是什么时候啊?”从那天开始,Scott总是自觉地完成老师布置的练习任务。
 
At the age of seven, Scott played "MoonRiver," which he did not play well, but also won loud applause and a kiss from his mother. Not only that, after the party, a lot of little boys and girls gathered around, and asked to take pictures with him. Scott seems to be getting the star treatment he's never had before. On the way home, Scott couldn't wait to ask his mother, "when is the next party?" From that day on, Scott always consciously completed the exercises assigned by his teacher.
Scott的故事告诉我们,“成就感”对孩子练琴非常重要

Scott之所以对练习钢琴的态度发生了如此巨大的变化,和他在晚会演出所体验到的成就感有密切关系。成就感是个体对自我能力的一种积极感受,它直接影响到个体的自我评价。因此,成就感是构建儿童自信心的基础。当孩子感受到自己“有能力”时,孩子就会更加积极、主动地努力。那么,如何在生活和教育过程中有效地培养孩子的成就感呢?
The reason why Scott's attitude towards practicing the piano has changed so dramatically is closely related to the sense of accomplishment he experienced in the evening performance. The sense of achievement is a kind of positive feeling of the individual to self-ability, which directly affects the individual's self-evaluation. Therefore, the sense of achievement is the foundation of building children's self-confidence. When children feel "capable", they will be more active in their efforts. So, how to effectively cultivate children's sense of achievement in life and education?
Scott的故事告诉我们,“成就感”对孩子练琴非常重要
作为父母 As a parentducation?


要充分赏识孩子的优点和进步。每个人的自我评价,都不同程度地受到外在评价的影响。虽然在妈妈心里,Scott当晚的弹奏一般,但平时较为腼腆的儿子,至少在当晚敢于上台,能面对近百人的场景完成演奏,这已经是很大的挑战和进步。观众热烈的掌声、同伴羡慕的眼神,尤其是妈妈深情的一吻,都让Scott感受到自己被大家所认可和赞许。这种外在的积极评价,在逐渐内化为自我的积极评价时,就成为了孩子的成就感。
Appreciate your child's strengths and progress. Everyone's self-evaluation is affected by external evaluation to some extent. Although in mother's mind, Scott was not good at playing that night, but at least his normally shy son dared to go on stage that night and could play in front of nearly a hundred people, which was a great challenge and progress. The warm applause of the audience, the envious eyes of his peers and especially his mother's affectionate kiss all made Scott feel recognized and approved by everyone. This external positive evaluation becomes a child's sense of achievement when it gradually turns into a self-evaluation.on?
Scott的故事告诉我们,“成就感”对孩子练琴非常重要
作为教育者 As an educator

要为孩子能力的表现提供充分的展示机会。个体的成就感,最根本的还是来自于对自我能力的认识。当孩子从实际的活动中感受到自己能够很好地完成任务时,就能真实地体会到一种“我能”的感觉。这种积极、愉悦的感受,不仅能提高孩子的自信心,而且还能促使孩子更加主动地努力地学习。教育者的作用之一,就是适时地为孩子提供这样一种展现的平台。例如,家长可以联合若干志趣相同的朋友,不定期地为孩子组织“儿童钢琴演奏会”或组织一些户外活动,另外,也多通过鼓励孩子适当参加社区活动的方式,为孩子提供展现自己能力的机会,同时,这也是孩子之间交流的机会。作为家长,在孩子展现能力的过程中,也要善于引导孩子认识到自己努力的方向,避免演变为“伤仲永”式的炫耀。
Provide ample opportunities for children to demonstrate their abilities. The sense of achievement of an individual, the most fundamental still comes from the understanding of self-ability. When children feel that they can complete the task well from the actual activities, they can truly experience a feeling of "I can". This kind of positive, cheerful feeling, not only can improve the child's self-confidence, but also can promote the child to study more actively. One of the roles of educators is to provide such a platform for children in a timely manner. For example, parents can combine several friends of common interest to orgaanize children's piano concert or some outdoor activities, in addition, also by encouraging more children to participate in community activities, appropriate for children the opportunity to demonstrate their ability, at the same time, this is also the opportunity to communicate between children. As a parent, in the process of children's ability to show, you also need to be good at guiding the children to realize their own direction, to avoid showing off.

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